Perhaps this is based upon the belief that only polygynous husbands accrue wives for such ends; financial, physical and any other benefit they can squeeze out of them. In other words all men who gather wives around them are basically selfish and see wives as a means of personal gain obtained by misuse and abuse of those women silly enough not to have seen through them in the first place and all such men are polygynous.

Let us all acknowledge that some men should never be husbands, they exploit their wives and treat them like dirt; and I know my readers have  met such husbands, most of whom are monogamous. When will we acknowledge that abuse of any kind is not exclusive to polygyny and can never be used to argue against it.

This is a Christian web site and the Bible makes it very clear as to the attitude husbands are to have and demonstrate in their families and we post some passages again;
Exo 21:10 If he takes himself another wife, her food, her clothing, and her duty of marriage shall not be lessened.
Eph 5:25 Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ also loved the church and gave Himself for it,
Eph 5:26 that He might sanctify and cleanse it with the washing of water by the Word,

Christian husbands have no grounds whatsoever to act, speak or otherwise treat their wife or wives in ways contrary to the instructions of the Lord in this matter. Husbands are to "sanctify and cleanse" their wives which excludes the mal treatment of them.

It has been observed by some, not threatened by polygyny, that quality Christian men with depth of character, strength of conviction and love of the Lord and His Word will be attractive to women. A wife or wives of such husbands would never be exploited or even feel so.

Marriage is not a cheap route to luxury for husbands, it is a grave responsibility before God to love and cherish our wives for their spiritual development and encouragement.

Perhaps it is time for polygyny to provide the sort of challenge some men and husbands need. As they see Christian men attracting Christian women for the right reasons, the might consider and even start being the husbands the Bible demands.

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