Few and far between are
the calm responses from Christians to the subject of polygamy; most
reactions are basically outbursts of fear. We have a friend who penned
the word "polyphobia".
The following words seem prevalent when believers are first confronted
with this subject;
Perversion, fleshly, unsaved, Godless, adulterers, homosexuality,
fornication, pleasure seekers, evil thinking, lust, and any other word
strong enough to capture the abhorrence which seems to have been lying
unexpressed within their hearts for a long time.
Yet we have to wonder why such violent reactions occur when most
Christians have at least a superficial knowledge of the many plural
families so clearly described in the Word of God. Many a faithful
servant of God was polygynous, both men and women.
God Himself had two wives.
Projection is another
possibility. When discussing this subject with a lady she reacted
violently basing her objections on her understanding that there was
jealousy between Sarah and Hagar. We need to ask is jealousy only
evident in polygynous marriages? An examination of the Scriptures will
show that jealousy was not the reason Hagar was eventually asked to
leave and Abraham had other concubines who were not asked to leave. This
lady was in no state to listen to the facts.
Fear is an incredible barrier to both rational and Biblical thinking and
we have to ask what is the root of such fears? What is it deep within
that brings up such strong reactions? Could it stem from the fear of
being wrong on this subject and thus serious doubts cast on all other
beliefs? The fear of being asked to live the lifestyle? Or could it be
the fear of exposure to things of the individual's past which somehow cultural views
of polygyny seem to refresh after years of suppression? Who can answer
Fearful and hypocritical reactions are certainly contrary to a love of
the truth, since if that were so an acknowledgment of Biblical history
and the laws and guidelines for polygyny ought to temper such strong
To many Christians, monogamy is wholesome and Biblical but polygyny is a
fleshly perversion yet they are both marriage options under divine
provision and command. Our prayer is that Christians who hurriedly use
such terms will reconsider after seeing the Scriptures presented on this
The wider society has no trouble permitting and in some cases promoting;
fornication, sowing wild oats, sexual double standards, unfaithfulness,
divorce, adultery, promiscuity, homosexuality, orgies, mistresses,
de-facto relationships, love children, prostitution, brutality, the
accumulation of wealth and possessions at any cost, destruction,
violence of every kind, lying, theft, exploitation, disregard for the
poor and deprived, and any other thing which is contrary to that which
is good and
wholesome but throws up hands in horror when polygyny is discussed. Why
such deep hypocrisy?
Let us consider some of the hypocrisy
rampant within the Christian community.
First of all many Christians will use this
verse in some twisted way to condemn polygyny;
Mat 19:9 And I say to you, Whoever shall
put away his wife, except for fornication, and shall marry another,
commits adultery; and whoever marries her who is put away commits
We remind our readers
divorce is the opposite to polygyny and God never declares polygyny as
adultery; we search the Word of Truth in vain for one verse which
declares so. But here is the twist. In modern churches many divorced
folk are welcome whether or not their divorce was based upon fornication
and in such cases a conveniently blinded eye for this verse of Scripture
exists. If consistency meant anything then all the churches should be
condemning all remarried folk not divorced for fornication, as
willfully committing adultery, but the silence is deafening.
Law of Land.
But wait, there's more. Remember the law of the land argument?
Christians can't have more than one wife because the law of the land is
against bigamy (not polygyny). These exponents using Scriptural
somersaults, are totally silent when the law of the land decrees "no
fault" divorce. If such Christians really believe Matt.19:9 et al, then
they should be condemning the law of the land and preaching against "no
fault" divorce. Once again the silence is deafening. Yet these same
Christians will wave the verse against polygynists with vigor. Perhaps
it is more important to have numbers in the pews than be totally
consistent with one's position.
Husband of one wife.
Then of course the monogamy only believers cry long and loud from this
1Ti 3:2 Then it behooves the overseer to be
without reproach, husband of one wife, temperate, sensible,
well-ordered, hospitable, apt at teaching,
1Ti 3:3 not a
drunkard, not contentious, not greedy of ill gain, but gentle, not
quarrelsome, not covetous,
1Ti 3:4 ruling
his own house well, having children in subjection with all honor.
this passage is not an exposition about marriage structure and Paul is
only limiting the bishops to one wife, or arguing they should still have
the first wife, we find a doctrinal conundrum here. Many of these same
folk who condemn polygyny with this passage are the same folk who have
single men and ladies as deacons, and not only so, forbid their bishops
to have any wives and consequently, as Paul demands, children in
subjection. Obviously interpretation is justified of her children.
Polygyny is Biblical marriage, and thus immune from the twisted
arguments of the fearful and doctrinally unsound Christians around us.
Forbidding to marry is one of the seducing
doctrines of demons which we are to expect in the last times and we see
this fast approaching. Single and widowed women in the Christian
community, where women outnumber men, are forbidden to marry because
they are falsely taught polygyny is adultery. And surprise, surprise, the
forbidding usually comes from those who are comfortably monogamously
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