Let the husband
render to his wife the affection due her,
and likewise also the wife to her husband...
1Cor.7:3
Paul's advice in the Scriptures above are
our guide, and in the Law guidelines were set for certain times of abstinence which may
have wisdom for today, see Lev.15, 18.
It is the opinion of this writer that there is a significant correlation between the
spiritual tone of the home and the depth of satisfaction and frequency in
intimacy. Therefore many marriage experiences will be different.
Husbands have very important functions and I
suspect the Lord knows all the benefits that come back to a husband when
he freely and happily fulfils these roles;
Eph 5:20
always giving thanks for all things to God the Father in the name of our
Lord Jesus Christ,
Eph 5:21
submitting yourselves to one
another in the fear of God.
Eph 5:25 Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ also loved the church
and gave Himself for it,
Eph 5:26 that He might sanctify and cleanse
it with the washing of water by the Word,
Eph 5:27 that He might present it to
Himself as the glorious church, without spot or wrinkle or any such
things, but that it should be holy and without blemish.
Eph 5:28 So men ought to love their wives
as their own bodies. He who loves his wife loves himself.
Eph 5:29 For no man ever yet hated his own
flesh, but nourishes and cherishes it, even as the Lord loves the
church.
Those husbands who are given deeper insights into all that those verses mean and applies them, will be blessed in his home by his wife or wives in every area.
When I was young and more stupid than I
am now, I felt I had to be the pursuer, much later, sadly, when I learnt
to be all that the Lord wanted me to be as a husband, I found this part
of this verse an exciting reality;
Gen 3:16
To the woman He said, .....your desire shall be toward your husband,
.......
Any husband who is bemoaning any aspect
of his marriage would be very wise to stop blaming wife or wives and
start looking at his own love and attitudes.
Likewise wives who are dissatisfied should carefully examine their
fulfillment of those roles the Lord has
given them.
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